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Where is everyone? Do you guys not use this forum any more? Are you somewhere else? I don't see either of you on the Cosmetic Surgery forum.

Anyhow, just in case anyone does check in here, I had mentioned that I was booked in to have my surgeries done on October 14th. I did have them. Had upper and lower bleph, cheek lift and repair of my bottoming out.

I won't bother to go into the details here, just in case you gals don't come here any more, but if you are interested all the info and pics are posted in the Cosmetic Surgeries Forum. If you don't go there and want to know about my surgeries just post here and I will tell you.

Very strange that no one is here any more - what's up with everything?

Hope you are both doing well, Tina and Kimmie. Miss you ladies!

XOXO

Ana (in recovery mode)

Hi Kimmie & Tina,

Tina, so sorry that your sister isn't doing well, this has got to be so very hard on you. Still praying for her and hoping that things will get easier for her and for you. How is your daughter doing? I pray for her too, and hope that she is doing well. She sounds like such a little trooper!

Kimmie, sorry to hear about your husband being ill. Will pray for him that he gets back to feeling 100% very soon. Glad that the hurricanes didn't cause any damage. We don't get hurricanes here - I've never experienced one - it sounds awful.

I'm doing fine, I have been through a lot of stress trying to hire and train new staff. It has been a very trying period. Thankfully things seem to be settling down now, I don't think I could have taken much more emotional stress and problems. I know that God only gives us as much as we can handle, He sure gave me a lot - guess he must think I'm pretty strong lol!

I am very happy to be rid of my ex-boyfriend Andrew. It was awful at first since he was one of my main workers, first going through all of the emotional garbage that he was dishing out, then having to kick him out - permanently - and fire him - permanently - but it was worth it in the end. I lost a ton of money, probably over $15,000.00 - OUCH!!! I was running on only half capacity with the business for over a month. Work was coming in, but I had no one to do the work. This was difficult, having to turn down all that business because I didn't have a tech to do the jobs. Clients were getting very angry with me, but I had to just explain to them that I had the one tech that was still here going 12 hours per day 6 days per week and could not work him any harder or he would become too ill or tired to work at all. August and September are my busiest months, it was a shame that all of this had to happen at this time (if it had happened in January, February or March it wouldn't have had much of an impact, as this is my slowest time) but at least it looks like "the clouds are clearing".

I realize that my depression was entirely situational. Many months of emotional upheaval had taken a toll on me - this is what has happened every time I have succumbed to depression, it has been because of circumstances that just build up until I feel overwhelmed and defeated. Now that I'm over the worst of it I no longer feel that depressed, sad, defeated feeling. Is good.

Today is the first day that feels like fall that we've had in September. Most of the summer was nasty cold, very unusual, but the first part of September made up for it by being beautiful. Today is again unseasonably cold, and expected to stay cold. That's ok though, I don't mind cold weather so much in the fall, just hate it in the middle of summer! I really wish I could move to a place that was never cold - never below 60 degrees. I'm a warm weather lover!

I guess if there was going to be a summer where "it wasn't like summer" this was a good time to have it - I was so depressed I don't think I could have enjoyed it much even if it had been warm. Now I am back to enjoying life again.

I am getting my new hair extensions tomorrow - Friday. I had my old ones removed yesterday, took forever to get them out without damaging my hair because I left them in for 6 months and didn't really take care of them. I had let them get matted between the scalp and the bond, this was when I was stressed to the max and just not having the energy to take care of myself very well. My hair didn't seem to sustain any damage though, no noticeable breakage, and it is feeling healthy. It is long too - past my shoulders - but so fine and tbin, this is why I get the extensions. I can grow my hair long, but it is so sparse that it never looks nice in its natural state. Hurray for hair extensions! Tomorrow will be 9 hours or so getting the new ones in - but it will be worth it when it is finished! This time I will take care of them, and probably replace them in 5 - 5.5 months instead of waiting over 6 months.

Anyhow, I am very busy with work, must get back to it.

Take care!

xx Ana

OK - first question on this section - yay - do I win a prize? LOL :-)

WHY do men cheat? They can have the most beautiful, sexy, intelligent, loving and caring woman, yet they still have to go and cheat. Often times, seems more often than not, the woman they cheat with is not as attractive, intelligent, or accomplished as the woman they cheated on.

Why is this?

Could it be that they don't think they deserve a beautiful and intelligent woman - are they intimidated by beauty and intelligence in the same package - are they looking for someone less attractive and less intelligent than them to feed their ego?

Do men want someone who is less attractive and less intelligent and less accomplished than them - so that they will feel more "powerful" and "manly"?

Awaiting answers.

First, glad to see you took my suggestion and made this section.

Second, as you told me, it is all about where you put yout thoughts - if you are thinking negative you are bringing more negavtivity. Never worked for me to read positive affirmations, but since it works for you perhaps read all of the Ralph Marsten and other positive thinking authors and betcha you will feel empowered and renewed lickety split.

I wish my problems now were as minor as a misunderstanding on a forum- BUT - I can understand how even something like this can cause a lot of heartache and discomfort.

Kimmie, you will be fine - you will do fine - you have a loving husband, a wonderful home, a fabulous car, a beautiful face and body - you really do have so much going for you. Plus, you have the financial freedom to never have to worry about where your next meal is coming from or if you will have a roof over your head tomorrow.

It's all good. You'll see that again soon. It is all in front of you - you just have to open your eyes and see it.

XOXO
Ana

Kimmie, I think you should make a new topic on here - I know this is "Power Juice" - but there needs to be a place for people to express pain and hurt.

Maybe call it "revovery room" or "Survivors" - a place for us to talk about things that aren't all pink and pretty, when we are looking to climb out of the holes that life may dig for us and rise back up again.

I am trying to crawl my way back up out of my dispair - and Kimmie, when I really needed people I didn't find anywhere here to come for acceptance and understandng.

If you want to have a great forum you need to have a place for peeps who may be in a bad way.

I am lucky - I am really strong - but some people may need support. I know I could have used some - but I did it all alone - and am now on the upward spiral instad of the downward one.

Just a thought...

XOXO
Ana

Oh Kimmie, I love you even more - I am relating to you more now you are coming to the real world - where sarcasm and irony are respected, where honor is king, where being tough is a good thing and where fluff and feathers are disdained.

Hey, nest you'll be wearing black clothes and listening to alt rock - woo hoo - and wearing shit kicking black boots instead of white go-go boots - ah, I can always dream can't I!

Lots of love from your li'l gothic butterball full of fun - I am always here for you Kimmie - even if things really suck. Because while LIFE never sucks, circumstances really do sometimes.

big hugs - and dark burgundy lipstick kisses

Ana

Kimmie, I'm still here. I don't post about my situations on here because I feel a bit uncomfortable sharing on here about things that are not positive, but I love you and support you none the less.

I have told you that when I am "healed" I will post more. When I can talk about life's little annoyaces and find joy and positivity in the trivial aspects of life you will see me here a lot.

You have a nice forum, you did good.

Don't let thngs get you down - you have so much going for you - a little misunderstanding on the other board can surely be rectfied with communication.

I understand how you must be feeling.

Chin up sweetie,

If you want to talk, I'm here - I don't judge or condemn - and if you aren't feeling all roses and sunshine I can empathise. Roses and sunshine have their place, but if you want to be real, and if you are hurting, I know that reality isn't all happy I can help.

We have cookies and ice cream on the dark side lol

Ana

Confused - what are you talking about? I can't see why anyone would try to do harm - not understanding at all what went down.

Feel sad for you if someone hurt you - but can't comment on what heppened since I don't know what happned.

Hope you are ok.

Still here, Kimmie.

Just going through a very rough patch - things have taken another turn which I was not really prepared for and I have a lot to deal with emotionally and business wise. It is very hard on me at this time. I feel like I am up the creek without a paddle and a hole in the boat and my bailing bucket fell overboard. Just trying to keep my head above water here.

When everything sorts out and I get myself back together I will post more. Just don't really have anything uplifting, motivating or empowering to post lately. I'm sure once I get over this latest hurdle I will have lots of positivity to share.

Hope you and Tina and everyone are well and happy.

Ana

Kimmie, I just read about your mom over on the boobie board. That is really awful. Hope that everything gets straightened out soon. Praying for your mom.

Ana

Mine don't shed because the hair is locked into the bond. When my own hair sheds it just makes the real hair that is attached to the bond a bit thinner, but the hair is still all there that was put in, it does not shed at all.

The thing that bugs me about mine is that the bonds are already 2.5" from my scalp - makes it difficult to style now so that the bonds can't be seen. I wish I could afford to get it redone every 3 months as is recommended, but I can't afford it. The color stays true, Great Lengths is good for that, the color will never fade or change, but the 2.5" of new growth gets tangled at the roots a bit. I hope I can hang on another month at least, hoping for 2, but don't think I'll make it that long. Wish they weren't so darned expensive! My problem isn't that I can't grow my hair as much as that my hair is so baby-fine so it looks thin and sparse. It has been this was all my life.

I am really curious about PERIMENOPAUSE. I hear you talking about it, I certainly should be going through it myself, but have had not discernable symptoms. Not one hot flash - I am usually freezing cold! No hair loss more than I had when I was in my 20's, PMS is the same as it has been all my life, periods are a bit lighter than they used to be, but that happpened after my last miscarriage - since that they are lighter. My mom suffered from menopausal symptoms from age 40 until age 55 - it was awful for her. Awful for everyone around her too!

I am wondering, do you know if some women just don't get perimenopause? When I saw my doctor about my depression a few years ago he asked if it was recent and if I had sleep disturbances, thought it might have been due to perimenopause, but I have suffered from depression off and on since I was a teenager, no changes, and no sleep disturbances. So he ruled that out.

I'm interested about it - just don't seem to have the symptoms you talk about - did it come on suddenly? What was the first symptom, or symptoms?

Sorry to ask so many questions, but I am very curious about it.

Thanks!

Ana

Hi Abby :-)

So nice to see you :-)

Ana

Wow Tina, your sister has way more burdens than anyone ought to have to bear. So sad. I continue to pray for her, and for you.

Hope your back gets better soon - it is hard to do everytbing you need to when in pain.

Prayers for you and your family - your little girl is such a trooper - hope you all receive great blesings very soon - you have had to endure so much.

XO
Ana

That must be awful. Hope something is done about it soon - either the buzzards finish it off ofr someone takes it away.

I don't have dogs but I have deer that are eating all my roses. I had about 25 lovely rose bushes, the deer have eaten every bud and most of the leaves. We are over-run with tame deer here. You can walk right up to them and even hand feed them, they don't even flinch. They are pretty, but annoying when they eat all the flowers! They don't move off the street for traffic either, they just walk slowly and make the cars slow down and wait for them to move. They think they own the neighborhood!

That is really great that the stylist is coming to you - so much better, I agree.

Why are you getting 50 more strands? I thought you got quite a bit when you had them done, is it not thick enough? How long are you getting this time? Did you have 24" to start with?

I just re-did my color today. I know you don't care for great lenths, but for me they are good because they don't require any salon mainainance. I couldn't afford to have to have more work done between applications - they are so expensive as it is! I haven't lost even one bond, and I've had them in nearly 5 months now. Going to try and see if I can keep them in another 2 months - trying to save $$!

I'm sure that after you get your maintenance done you will have the most spectacular hair in all of Texas - you must take new pictures for us!

There was a blind girl who hated herself and her life because she was blind. She hated everyone, except her loving boyfriend. He was always there for her. She told her boyfriend, 'If I could only see the world, I would marry you.'

One day, someone donated a pair of eyes to her. When the bandages came off, she was able to see everything, including her boyfriend.

He asked her, 'Now that you can see the world, will you marry me?' The girl looked at her boyfriend and saw that he was blind. The sight of his closed eyelids shocked her. She hadn't expected that. The thought of looking at them the rest of her life led her to refuse to marry him.

Her boyfriend left in tears and days later wrote a note to her saying: 'Take good care of your eyes, my dear, for before they were yours, they were mine.'
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This is how the human brain often works when our status changes. Only a very few remember what life was like before, and who was always by their side in the most painful situations.

Life Is a Gift.

Today before you say an unkind word - Think of someone who can't speak.

Before you complain about the taste of your food - Think of someone who has nothing to eat.

Before you complain about your husband or wife - Think of someone who's crying out to GOD for a companion.

Today before you complain about life - Think of someone who went too early to heaven.

Before whining about the distance you drive Think of someone who walks the same distance with their feet.

And when you are tired and complain about your job - Think of the unemployed, the disabled, and those who wish they had your job.

And when depressing thoughts seem to get you down - Put a smile on your face and think: you're alive and still around.

May you all have a blessed day!

(of course the story is not true, it is just to make a point)

So sorry to hear about your vertabrae. That is really nasty.
Thoughts and prayers going out for you that you will heal quickly and be free of pain.

Ana

Hi Kimmie, no I haven't given up on the board. A few times I tried to post and it wasn't working, it timed out on me.

Still fighting the good fight here, trying to decipher what is the right course of action to take and what would be harmful to me/my company/my son so just keeping it to myself for now - seems better.

My situation is different because my personal life and business life are entwined like a Celtic Knot - I can not make a personal decision without it affecting the business, nor a business decision without it affecting the personal. I do not like it this way, but it is the mess I have created, so I have to "untangle things" as I can.

The thing about untangling messes is that they have to be done slowly and with care if the majority of things important are to be kept intact. Sort of like knots in one's hair. If I get a big knot in my hair I can take the time and slowly work the knot out, which leaves most of the hair intact with only a few broken pieces. If I yank at it and get impatient and start pulling too hard I break a lot of hairs and leave a lot with split ends and damage. And...if I cut the knot out, then I have lost that bit of hair completely. If it is a small knot then cutting it out may be a good course of action to take, but if it is a big one it could ruin the look of the hair to have a big chunk cut out. LOL - I do love using analogies.

So right now I have a "rat's nest in my hair" so to speak, and I am trying to untangle it strand by strand. Sometimes I make things worse, sometimes I get a bit of headway towards "untangling the knots". It is a slow and painful process.

Still here though - now that my computer seems to be co-operating a bit better I will try to post more.

Ana

I see no one has posted anything for a while, is this forum still going or did you gals leave and go somewhere else?

(Walks around, sees no one here, leaves)

I am very assertive in that sort of situation. When I have been rear-ended I stop the car in the middle of the road, get out and demand the person's driver's license, then tell them where we will pull over and discuss what to do. I get angry about that sort of thing. Sometimes a tendency to get angry can be bad, but sometimes it can be good.

I am a good complainer. You have surely noticed that lol. I have a lot of practice - I have lots of things to complain about lol. Again, sometimes this is bad, but sometimes it is good as I have learned to be assertive when I am wronged by strangers. If my food isn't done how I ordered in a restauraunt I will always send it back or if no time I get it comped.

If only I could be assertive with people I am close to. There I have a problem. I don't care if strangers think I'm a bitch, but I do care what friends and acquaintences think. Sometimes good, but sometimes bad.

Yes, of course cake. Black Forest, his favorite. Plus I took him out for dinner.

He likes to do all sorts of cooking, breakfasts, lunches, dinners, barbecues, everything. He'a very good at it too. He has been cooking since he was 7 years old. Once he cooked a 3 course meal for 16 people for a church function. He was 12 at the time. He is very accomplished. I am very proud of him.

Thank you ladies.

I bought Andrew a new barbecue for his birthday. He loves to cook. It has a side burner, and ice bucket and cold condiment tray, a light in the lid so he can cook in the dark and even a bottle opener on it. He likes it a lot. He has been wanting a new barbecue, the old one is too badly broken to use any more so he has not been able to grill yet this year.

Sorry to hear about your incident. Hope the car is perfectly ok. Good thing you are ok and that she didn't hit you hard.

Some people are just ignorant. I recall them being ignorant when I was that age too. I don't think you wre out of line about her at all. She was a rude jerk.

My son Andrew is turning 16 on July 23. Just wanted to tell someone.
Have a nice day everyone.

Hey Tina, glad you're starting to feel better.
Rollerblading is SCARY if you don't know how to skate. I never learned to ice skate or roller skate (my family - not allowed to do ANYTHING but read Christian books)so the first time I tried rollerblading was last year. I can't do it unless my son holds my hand - otherwise I fall. I tried once on my own, didn't make it down the driveway without falling. I'm a klutz though - most people probably do better than I do! I like it when I go with my son and he holds my hand - then it is kind of fun!