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Sometimes I start to feel as though I'll never overcome these issues and it makes me feel discouraged and hopeless. But then I make myself look back at where I was just 3 years ago and I immediately see there is a definite positive change, even though it is very slight its still change. Then I have hope again.

The feeling of letting go of things you cannot control/change is the ultimate feeling of freedom. I look back at the times I have felt myself do this. My goal is to be more consistent with it. Seems I do it on 1 thing and then not again for a long time, too few and far between. So its not that I don't know how to let go. You would think once you got a taste of that you would just go full force with it.

The best feeling is when at times I'll be panicking and obsessing over something and get to the point where I just stop and recognize the absurdity of behaving that way, and then simply choose to let go of it, what a great feeling!!

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KimmieKoKo
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Congratulations for you Kimmie!
I wish I could do the same.  Seem to obsess over something all of the time, and my control issue gets worse with anything that happens that is difficult in life.  If I am not obsessing over a clean house, it's the lawn, or the closets, or the garage...I have this horrible need to "fix" things and get them exactly right.  I did this with my husband's closet, and he came home one day, and every shelf was labeled with shirt types, sizes, seasons, etc., and all of his hanging clothes were done by color, season, style.  He just died laughing!
I am slowly learning to let go, but it is a HUGE struggle for me too!
superstar - founder
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Its really just a matter of choice and I think whenever you get to a desperate point of wanting to change things is when it usually happens.
I do know that it takes repetition and repetition is exactly how you or I got this way in the first place.
It takes a lot of focused awareness and continued consistent every day effort. Sometimes I struggle immensely to change these things.

I think also that a little bit of OCD (obsessive compulsive) comes into play with these behaviors. I do have OCD. Sometimes I put something up and I go back 3 or 4 times just to get it perfectly straight, can't seem to stop, and I also have thoughts that I "feel" like I cannot control and they are terrible thoughts too that cause guilt feelings.

I am going to resend you another cd, I think the other is probably lost.

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